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I Love You But Please Back Off!

March 18, 2016
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Often, it’s better to not show what you intend to do in the beginning of an artwork. That way, you can do what needs to be done and create what you want. After all, too many chefs in the kitchen would spoil the food.

Remember who’s in charge of the project. It’s you and not anybody else. You’re the one who had the vision. Don’t let other people change it without examining them thoroughly. When someone tells you otherwise, remember that they’re not factoring what’s important to you.

While other people may offer invaluable advice, it’s good to remember that you’re the one who’s going to do it. It’s hard to accomplish what you want if you listen too much to other people. You need to remember that they cannot see your imagination. They’re only spectators who’s watching your progress. You’re the one running the show.

There are times when it’s good to tell people to back off. However, do it with love and kindness. They mean well. However, they’re not helping you in terms of creating your vision. After all, you would do the same thing if you were in their position.

How do you tell people lovingly to back off?

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Clear Vision

March 17, 2016
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People need to be clear with their vision. Otherwise, people would derail their plans. After all, they know their project the best.

While it’s good to incorporate other people’s advice, we need to keep in mind who’s completely in charge of the project. That way, if we have someone in our lives tell us that we’re making a big mistake and that we should do things their way, we would know to put our foot down in order to fulfill what was in our mind.

Remember that it’s you who’s in charge of the project. It’s you who’s making them and not whoever would give you advice. It’s also you who would be dealing with the consequences and not them. It’s your hands that does the painting, the typing, or the crocheting. It’s your body that creates these things so you shouldn’t let other people tell you otherwise.

Sometimes, people need to back off. What you need to realize is that it’s you making the decision and not them. There were times when it’s good to listen to other people’s advice. Then, there were times when you had to tell them to stop giving you the advice. Otherwise, it’s going to derail your plan to accomplish what you want. You need to do what you need in order to accomplish your goal. While it’s good to listen to other people’s advice, there would be times when you need to tell people to back off even if you love them.

That way, you’re going to do things according to your plan. While they might have good advice to offer, they might derail your plans because they would not factor the things that caused you to decide what you’re doing. Their idea of what you should do is very different from what they want you to accomplish.

Hold on to your vision. Don’t let other people tell you to do things differently or otherwise if it will hinder your goal.

Have you been clear about your vision?


Other People’s Opinions

March 16, 2016
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Sometimes, it’s not good to show our work when we’re not clear with what we truly want. I make things for people, only to have things changed because someone close to me would see one aspect of it that while I did consider, was not the major reason why I would be doing them. Then, I would follow what they want according to their vision instead of my own.

As often the case, it’s better to do what I want and then to show them the results later on. They often like the end results anyway. It’s not that I don’t value their opinion—I had other factors that they’re not considering. This is why it’s better to take a step back and to figure out what I want. Did what they tell me complement with my goal? Or would their opinion derail my plan completely? I have to make sure that I know what I want. This was one of reason I’m not showing people the things I’m making in the beginning. After all, they’re going to have a lot of opinion on how things should be done but I’m the one with the vision. My input is what matters the most.

Similarly, you need to be clear with your goals. Otherwise, other people would come in and tell you what they think. While they might offer valuable insights, the most important factor is what you want. After all, you’re the one creating them. If you’re not clear with what you want, whatever advice they tell you could hinder you instead of help you. If you want to make fuzzy socks, someone would tell you that they think it’s not practical which would cause you to buy a different yarn. If what they’re saying is different from what you want, you might create a completely different thing that do not align with your vision at all.

When you’re clear with what you want, only then can you compare it with other people’s advice. Since you’re the creator, you’re the most important factor of all. Don’t let people into talking you out of doing what you think is best.

What do you want? Would other people’s opinion hinder you or help you?


Don’t Mess with My Plans

March 15, 2016
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Sometimes, listening to other people how to do your craft would cause whatever plans you have to get derailed. Though they could offer invaluable advice, you have to see for yourself if what they’re telling you is something that would help you with your goal instead of going opposite what you want. Often, I would have an idea, only to have it changed because some people would see one aspect of it that’s not a factor for my decision. However, they’re not accounting for what I would consider to be very important at all.

An example would be me trying to make a blanket for my friend. I had the idea to make it lacy because I don’t have enough time. Then my grandma and my mom told me that it has a lot of holes and would not warm people up. I consider what they’re saying so I had to unravel my yarn and start over again. It’s a good thing that I had done it at the beginning of the project.

Later, my mom saw my blanket. She said to just buy my friend a gift because according to her, I don’t have time. That’s when I had to put my foot down. I told her that I let her talk me into changing my plans to begin with.

I’m not blaming my mom. I like creating my own design instead of using some pattern. Still, I was the one that had that vision. They couldn’t see what I see when I make that project. When I let people tell me what I should do, they often don’t factor how long it’s going to take me to do it. They just look at what they think looks good without even considering everything I was trying to accomplish. That’s why it’s sometimes better not to share my vision in the beginning. They’re going to derail your plans.

It’s better to show them what I did afterwards, when it’s all done. That way, they could see what you want them to see and they won’t have a hand in your creative process. After all, they can’t tell me I’m making a big mistake when something had already been completed. It’s better to show people the finished product, get their opinions afterwards, and then incorporate their opinions on the revision of my work. It doesn’t mean that it’s bad to take advice from other people. However, we need to be clear of what we want or other people would take that from me.


Finishing

February 2, 2016
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What was on an artist’s mind never translates well on the said artist’s medium. Nevertheless, it was better if he or she keeps on working on his or her craft even if their creation falls short of his or her expectations.

Everything I learned about finishing and creating something unique, I learned from practicing crochet. From creating a project that stands out to actually finishing an object, I learned by using a hook and a ton of yarn.

I am good at crochet. If you ever see me crocheting, you would see that my stitches were even. My rounds were really round—they don’t curve unless I want them to. The flat fabrics were even as well. You won’t see my fabric produce a scraggly edge. It was flat and even if I raise it up.

And yet, I could never seem to finish a project. There were plenty of unfinished projects in my room—unfinished yarn projects where I keep on changing my mind and then redoing them the way I wanted them to be and then unravel the yarn to start at another project again.

I learned that my tendency to undo my creation was because of my desire with perfection. If I didn’t like the project, I would unravel it and start over again. This time, to create something entirely new. I try to grasp all the ideas in my head, often, things look way better in my head than when I execute them. I was so ashamed at what I did that I had no choice but to unravel my yarn and start over again.

When I realized this, I told myself that I would finish what I wanted to create—even if they don’t turn out well. Whether it’s having gaps on my scarf, or the fabric did not have the right color, I would keep on working on it even though it didn’t turn out to be as good as I hoped. Since I had implemented that idea, I had finished a lot more things. Most of them turned out okay even though they have flaws.

It turned out that actually finishing the project did teach me more than my usual unravel and redo. It taught me how the yarn actually behaves if I try to do things a certain way. Of course, I had learned that I could adjust things while working on my project along the way. It wasn’t as bad if I only unraveled three rows instead of 100. My work is still a disappointment but at least I managed to finish it.

Even when flawed, a work that one actually created is better than the one that never materialized. After all, the particular work that one has actually exists. If a person keeps working on their craft, he or she would improve that one day, what was on his or her mind would translate well on their medium even if it fell short of his or her expectations. He or she would create better stories, better artwork, better sculpture, etc. His or her visions would match what they bring forth to the world.

 

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